Biblical Aspects of Relationships
- Biblical Fellowships.
- Kingdom Partnerships.
- Covenant Relationships.
Biblical Fellowships - Koninia – Giving and receiving. Acts 2:41-42, Breaking bread in fellowship. Participating in other people’s lives beyond “hello” and “goodbye”. It moves a church from a crowd to a congregation, helping bear one another’s responsibilities. It is my responsibility to have Koninia in the church that I am in.
Kingdom Partnerships - Relationships among a certain kind of people. Joined with others in the work of the ministry. This is a higher level than biblical relationships. Koninas (Luke 5:10) – Partnering together;joining together with others in the work of the ministry; likeness of vision and philosophy of ministry.
Covenant Relationshps (Friendship) – Prov 17:17. God joining two people together, which lasts for a lifetime in spite of the trials, the hurts, or misunderstandings that come to break it. John 15:12-13. Hebrew word for friend; Rhea – acquaintance. Ahef – committed love.
When people get born again, if their core relationships don’t change quickly from the friends of the world, they usually don’t make it.
People with Friends
- It extends their life expectancy.
- They suffer less depression.
- They go through terminal illnesses better and live longer through the illness.
- Keeps stress hormones in check.
- Builds their immune system.
- Friend. Shares experiences together.
- Unconditional love.
- A love of the will and not a love of the emotion (not founded on).
- A love of commitment, not a love of season.
- A love of consistency.
Intimate relationship is very scary to people. If someone says they are not a people person, it usually means one of the following:
- They have been deeply hurt by someone close to them.
- If they’ve been consistently rejected throughout their life, or have never had a relationship.
- They have killed relationships themselves through issues they have not dealt with.
Types of Friends.
- Friends of the Road – Core relationship, sometimes intimate, as long as we’re traveling the same road. Roads change.
- Friends of the Heart – Last forever no matter what changes take place.
Things that Destroy an Intimate Relationship.
- Sin – The greatest destroyer of relationships.
- Familiarity – Loss of value and the loss of respect.
Your heart hungers for Intimate and Core Relationships.
- Intimate (1-7). Takes years to develop. A part of you dies if you lose one. (Jonathon and David).
- Core (20-100). You spend time with them and know their past. Hurts to lose, but does not cave you in. Strong or weak.
- Acquaintances (Approximately 500 in your lifetime). Very surface. Not a big deal to lose this relationship.
- 80% of people in our nation never experience one intimate relationship in their entire lifetime.
- Relationships are worth trying, keeping, fighting for, and working on.
- There is nothing in life that can bring more pain or more joy than relationships.
- It is better to be alone than to be in a bad relationship.
- You will never know the depth of a relationship until it is tested (offense, misunderstandings, etc).